The Hurt Within You

We have all been hurt at some point in our lives, whether physically or emotionally. But how many of you have truly dealt with that hurt? Whether you realize it or not, the pain you experienced can affect you in many ways. You may often find yourself feeling depressed, anxious, irritable or angry. Some of you may even try to suppress or forget the experience all together. Unfortunately none of these coping mechanisms are going to help you in the long run. Holding on to your pain can lead to unhealthy habits such as self-destruction by substance abuse, over eating, isolation and self-neglect. Although it may be difficult, there are ways you can begin to deal with your pain and eventually heal the hurt within you.

You can begin the healing process by following some of the steps below.

• Acknowledge your pain and the experience or event that caused it

• Be aware of your thoughts and feelings, and the physical reactions your body manifests

• Give yourself time to process the pain

• When acknowledging your pain, remember to proceed with caution, if you are feeling like it is all too much, then it’s time to take a break. The goal is to increase self-awareness at a supportable pace

• Practice positive coping mechanisms

• Dealing with your pain may increase feelings of anxiety, isolation or depression. Practice techniques such as deep breathing, meditation or prayer. Utilize the support of others when feelings of depression or isolation begin to set in. Another helpful technique is to increase physical activity: walking, exercising, dancing, etc.

• Ask for help when you need it

• Healing from your pain may require additional help. Talk to someone you trust, and if need be seek professional assistance. The pain associated with some traumatic experiences may be more than you can handle on your own. Never feel afraid or ashamed to ask for help.

Lastly, remember that healing will not happen overnight, and your journey to healing may not look like anyone else’s. Take as long as you need, and don’t feel bad if you stumble along the way.